Temperament Tools: Working with Your Child's Inborn Traits by Helen Neville and Diane Clark Johnson.
I borrowed this book from the library because I've always been interested in personality studies. I also work in an environment where personality profiling has been successfully used to improve team dynamics and efficiency. With this background, it was with great gusto that I dug into this book but my enthusiasm soon gave way to blah by the time I got to page 22.
That's the page where the authors start to describe the different behaviours to observe in a child so that they can be grouped with a particular personality. I stopped reading at this point and have no intention of restarting. I stopped because I found the choice of word's used in describing children's behaviour too negative. I am a strong believer in the power of the spoken word and confessing positives into the lives of my children (and not just when they are within hearing range either but all the time.) For example, I'd rather say we had difficulty going to bed last night than say I have a difficult child. "Dawdles thinking about my child in such terms even if it's to understand their personality better. I don't want to fall into that very big parent trap of labelling kids especially in non-complimentary terms.
I recommend skipping this book. I'm still interested in understanding how to best work with any difference in personality and temperaments that I have with my daughters, but I will be getting my advise from another source. Any recommendations?
I borrowed this book from the library because I've always been interested in personality studies. I also work in an environment where personality profiling has been successfully used to improve team dynamics and efficiency. With this background, it was with great gusto that I dug into this book but my enthusiasm soon gave way to blah by the time I got to page 22.
That's the page where the authors start to describe the different behaviours to observe in a child so that they can be grouped with a particular personality. I stopped reading at this point and have no intention of restarting. I stopped because I found the choice of word's used in describing children's behaviour too negative. I am a strong believer in the power of the spoken word and confessing positives into the lives of my children (and not just when they are within hearing range either but all the time.) For example, I'd rather say we had difficulty going to bed last night than say I have a difficult child. "Dawdles thinking about my child in such terms even if it's to understand their personality better. I don't want to fall into that very big parent trap of labelling kids especially in non-complimentary terms.
I recommend skipping this book. I'm still interested in understanding how to best work with any difference in personality and temperaments that I have with my daughters, but I will be getting my advise from another source. Any recommendations?